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The Importance of Estate Planning for the Single Parent

Updated: May 22

Being a single parent has added responsibilities, including making sure that your minor children are taken care of in the event you no longer are there.  What would happen to your children if you died, or became incapacitated and could no longer care for them? Who would take care of them? Where would they live?  Who would pay for their day-to-day care, housing, and education? If you are not married to your children’s father, or are married but separated and in the process of divorce, these questions become complicated.

You may legally be the sole decision maker when it comes to the care of your children and you may have a plan in mind in case of death or incapacitation.  You may have spoken to family members or friends about what you would want to happen if you were not able to take care of your children. But, unless these plans are stated in properly executed estate planning documents, your choices may not be followed.  A knowledgeable and experienced Virginia estate planning attorney will educate and advise you, and create the documents needed to make sure your wishes become a reality. Remember, your goal is to make sure your children are well cared for, even if you’re not the one doing it.

An Estate Plan is Much More Than a Will!

A properly drafted estate plan will reduce your stress now, and also eliminate guesses, conflict, and stress for those who are left behind during a difficult time.  What estate planning documents do you need and how will they help you as a single parent?

Will:  First and most importantly, your will is used to name a guardian for your minor children.  In the event of your death, your children’s other parent will automatically become their guardian.  But, even if that parent is fit, you should always designate a guardian in case the other parent can’t or chooses not to act.  You may also designate a different person, other than your children’s other parent or the named guardian, to manage your children’s inheritance.  Without a will, the court will appoint a guardian of their choosing and may grant custody of your children to someone you wouldn’t want raising them.

A will is also used to designate the executor for your estate; the person who will honor your wishes and decisions and distribute the estate according to your instructions.  If you don’t have a will, your estate will be distributed per the intestacy laws of Virginia.

Revocable Living Trust:  A living trust has many benefits, especially for a single parent of children who are too young to manage assets on their own. A trust allows you to be in charge of your assets while you are alive, but when you die or become incapacitated, the person you name as successor trustee will follow your wishes, administer your assets as necessary, and make distributions to beneficiaries. This is particularly important even if your children are technically adults…18 years or older.  Young adults may not be ready to handle an inheritance and use the money, responsibly, as you would want. A well written trust will name a trustee who can distribute the inheritance per your intentions, with the goals of paying for living expenses, college, or possibly a down payment on a home. A properly drafted trust will also avoid probate, which can be both expensive and time-consuming.

Advance Health Care Directive:  A health care directive, often called an advance medical directive or “living will” allows you to name someone you trust to make decisions about your health care when you are not capable of doing so yourself.  This allows a single parent to specify, in advance, what his or her health care wishes are and how they should be carried out.  This should give you peace of mind, knowing that your medical decisions, even made in advance, are made according to your wishes.  It also makes sure that your family members do not undergo the additional strain of trying to make key medical decisions on your behalf, during an already stressful time.

Power of Attorney:  As a single parent, you are probably the only name and signer on your bank accounts, mortgage, credit cards, and other bills or documents.  A durable power of attorney lets you name a trusted individual to manage your financial affairs and legal decisions if you are not able to due to incapacitation.  It’s critical that someone is able to access your accounts, if necessary, to pay your bills and mortgage, and keep the lights on.

Beneficiary Designations:  You may have life insurance policies and retirement accounts.  These policies are not listed in your will or trust. The beneficiary designations on these accounts will control who they are distributed to.  It is important to understand that minor children are not legally allowed to control assets, so it is important that you review your policies and make sure your minor children are not named as beneficiaries.  If they are, a guardian will have to be appointed by the court to manage these assets until the child turns 18. A Virginia estate planning attorney can suggest strategies that will allow your children to benefit from your life insurance and retirement accounts without court intervention.

As a parent, your first and most important goal is to protect your children.  This is true even if you are not able to do so yourself because of incapacitation or death.  As one of your most important responsibilities, a comprehensive estate plan allows you to make decisions now to ensure that your children are cared for in the way you wish if the unthinkable happens.

Northern Virginia Trusts & Estates

Northern Virginia Trusts & Estates provides affordable estate planning services for Virginia families. Our firm understands the intricacies of estate planning and offers a range of services from simple, a la carte pricing for single items, to comprehensive offerings that cover a variety of preparations.

For more information about our estate planning services, and packages, contact our office today at 703.938.3510 or visit our website.

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